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Why I Stopped Caring for Likes and Why You Should, Too

Social media is a cutthroat game. The irony? No one is even social.

When I first downloaded Instagram — circa, 2012? Maybe? It was simply a place where you shared a photo, you knew everyone on your follower list and there wasn’t such a thing as “stories.”

Yes, I’m taking it way back:

No stories

No business tools

No influencers

Maybe the occasional foodie. And, even that phenomenon fizzled quick.*

What happened to trends remaining trends, and only hopping on your feed maybe, er…once every week or so? We were a more disciplined audience, then. When Instagram and Snapchat started simultaneously gaining traction after Facebook — the Myspace successor — lost its young audience and it’s Ancestry-adjacent, here’s-someone-from-your-high school-that-you-never-wanted-to-hear-from-again adult audience moseyed in, major changes rolled out, and the “hashtag” became a universal tool.

Don’t get me wrong — I have my own social media accounts, but, almost involuntarily. Does anyone else feel like they’re missing out on life without it? The irony is almost too sad. Though I have these accounts, my involvement and perception of them has definitely changed course over the past years — and after educating yourself, yours should too.

Pressure. Forced expression. Disappointment. Frustration. Self-loathing.

This is taking a picture for my feed (consensus taken based off myself), and in that order.

Then, when you taken the dreaded “eh…this could work” kind of photo — the over-analyzation overwhelms any kind of positive thoughts you had on this one mediocre snap. *logs off*

It was specifically this tennis match of a game that social media made me play and had me call the referee for a timeout; but will you reach your Break Point?

What are some experiences that made you leave — or limit — your social media use?

And if you haven’t logged off yet: do you think you could live without it?

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*no it hasn’t

Learning To Exist

I am a very routine person.

Waking up, going to work and coming home is a cycle I try to maintain. In the minuscule pockets of space I have between these things, I try to s q u e e z e in some of my hobbies and favorite indulgences.

But that is exactly my problem.

I have always taken pride in making lists, setting alarms or attending appointments, because that is what an adult does, right? It makes me feel mature, somewhat accomplished to have my own “schedule” and ultimately satisfy my personal need to keep doing something. 

In the job I have, a regular morning is waking up at 4 A.M., surrounding myself with people and caffeine until about noon, and continuing my day at home or just with myself. I work in very unique part of Phoenix, a large community with different shops, artists and entertainment that I have put in my mental notes as Eventual. I am just now realizing that I l i v e in the center of this everyday art, and my experiences rely on my physical drive to go out and do.

Am I the only one that feels this way?

I keep telling myself to set goals to my different niches and I really need to take my own advice. Getting up more and pausing Real Housewives of New York has to be step one.

I have to start screaming internally to myself to be present more. See more. Do more. Be more. I am only now discovering that I am surrounded by the things I mark as “To Do,” and so is everyone else. Teaching ourselves to live a bit more mentally freelance allows us all to live in a creative way, while utilizing what our communities have to offer us.

It is almost obnoxious the amount of detail and creativity around me everyday.

Here are a few times I opened my eyes and captured this summer in a thought to just exist: 

Downtown Phoenix at Hotel San Carlos Instagram: @tonibork
Vintage thrift store Retro Ranch in Phoenix, Arizona; Instagram @tonibork
Strawberry, Arizona; Instagram @tonibork

How do you fit little adventures into your everyday routines?

One thing I did first was assess my wasted time. See what I did here.

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